Trust me....it's not pretty, but it works as long as you're willing to be fully open.
Andabel - I have loved Jamie Fraser since I read the first book back in 1992. Diana Gabaldon is one of the best authors of our time and anyone who hasn't read her really needs to do themselves a favor and read her books.
I haven't read The Host yet, but I plan on it. I hear it's very good. I'm on the countdown to 21NOV09!!!!!!!! Totally obsessed with all of the Twilight books!
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T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I read them all because of you. And I did enjoy them. I wish it had more headbanging scenes though. I was left lacking... (I am developing an "issue" here, OMG!!).
IC can be difficult. I would get so frustrated with my C I was yelling and arguing with her.That's when she would pour me a Jack K
Well K, the books were written to be geared toward 12-18 year olds so she didn't get more graphic and left a lot to the imagination. Boy, I'll tell you, I've got quite an imagination!
Your C actually gave you Jack? WOW! I go home and have a glass of wine afterward because I end up so frazzled. It's the only time I allow myself to break down totally so it's really a draining experience.
Question for you all.......
When someone starts talking to you about how stupid, stubborn, rude, backward, or whatever their spouse or SO is do you find yourself wanting to tell them to please appreciate that person and try to look at the positive? Or, if someone talks about falling in 'love' with someone, being absolutely 'ga ga' over them or whatever do you want to scream to them to stop it! Look at reality! No one is worth losing yourself to them because they will destroy you in the end!
Don't get me wrong....I bite my tongue. I am relatively sure it's just my cynical, damaged self that thinks these things but I'm curious if any of you have those same thoughts.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I do find myself quite a bit budding my two cents in on folks who are not having the best go of things in their R and they think leaving is the best option. Mainly M'd folk with kids.
Then only intervention I can think of where I advised someone to be cautious about dating someone and how interested they should be is my cousin I live with who is/was dating a guy who is "sepreated" yet does not respond to calls/texts in a timely fashion (sometimes for days) and often speaks in code. When I met him, we were all going to go get inked, but the shop was too busy. In the car and afterward, I took note to how attentive he was to make sure nothing in the car was disturbed and picking my cousins hair off the seat as well as being overly protective of not displaying his left hand. My obvious observation to her was, tell him to go home to hiw W and stay there.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I think the lesson a lot of us learn hear is that "losing yourself" to someone is a sure way for a relationship to fail. Keeping yourself, and adding their life to yours, and your to theirs, is a recipe for success!
A litle "gaga" is ok, as long as you keep yourself!
Next month would have been my 11th and I'm not sure what I'm going to do just yet. I believe it deserves some type of recognition as it's a date that will forever be in our lives because it meant something really wonderful at one point. But, I certainly don't think it's healthy to just make it a day in mourning either.
Matter of fact, I think I just figured it out, and maybe you can try this and let me know how it goes. I think I'm going to go about my day (which will be trying seeing it's a Saturday 10/17 obviously), and at 3:30, time of wedding, maybe observe a 'moment of silence' of sorts, kick back with a glass of zinfendel as we always did and reflect on the good times we shared for the duration of 45 minutes that the ceremony was. When times up, boom, go about the rest of the day, go see a movie or hang with friends or something to let yourself know life has gone on.
I think it just might work.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Today would have been our 16th anniversary. I wonder if this date will ever come without bringing with it a lot of pain and regret.
((((((mishka))))))
No regret allowed!
We make choices in our lives based on what we know and feel at the time. They are sometimes good, sometimes not so good. But don't regret them! They are part of us. Learn from them. But don't regret them. Move your focus to the good. No matter what Gabe says, you know there were good times. You have a son that lights up your days. Maybe I am a twisted sentimentalist, but I think it's a lot better to look back today, and remember that there was a lot of good. It's still a day to celebrate, not a day to regret.
