Been thinking about the PC and all the needless expense. xW has been grousing about it too. Her last email on the subject, sent this week, had a statement that had me thinking -- not the way she intended however. She said, about the retainer:
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The only reason this is needed is your paranoia. Can't you just "Live & Let Live"?
I didn't respond to it, not directly (just acknowledged that the time to pay the retainer was due). Privately I snorted at the "Live & Let Live" jibe. Obviously, she herself can't follow the very principles she holds up for me to comply with. Transference again.
But then "Live and Let Live" suggests that one practice forgiveness. On that score I have myself been struggling. Michele says Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves, and I believe this. It corroborates every other teaching I have encountered on the subject. I want to "Live & Let Live", to forgive and move onward -- it is just very hard with the continual trespasses from the ex.
