I know. I get the same mixed messages. Can I just say hang in there? She's not gone yet, so part of her wants to be there no matter what she says? I want my H to pick a direction too. But I also feel relief when I know he hasn't picked the direction of D yet. They open, they close, they give, they take. It's a roller coaster. I want to tell him to stick it too. But then it would all be over, and he'd blame me. Not going to do it.
sounds like time for some boundaries however. If she is to be around - what behavior will you tolerate, which won't you? Bottom lines - you'll walk away if she... you'll hang out with her if she... you will tolerate.... you won't tolerate...
If what you want and need is for her to make a solid decision one way or the other, then respect your own need for this. If you don't want to play guessing games any more, your bottom line could be that you won't hang out with her until a decision is made on her part. This will protect your emotions. Just an example, but a way to protect and care for yourself. Hang in there - I'm right there with ya.
