So, STBXH called today and said he had some news..... he was in a pawn shop and looked down in the case and there was my wedding ring set (the one S18's friend admitted to taking from my jewelry box and then said he "lost"). I have some strange mixed feelings about this. For a split second I had a thought to just say "Well, good, I hope whoever buys it enjoys it!" (That definitely would have been a 180)
Then after I hung up from X, I started to cry. It's hard to explain, but I sorta saw losing it as a "sign" that I was supposed to let go and move on. Now.....I don't know what I am feeling really. I called the police and made a report so I can get it back and the pawn shop has it on hold for me. I wore that ring for 20+ years, and my M meant something to me. So I choose to see it as a symbol to remind me of the good things, rather than remember how it ended. I asked my D24 if she wanted it (she has a lot of issues with her dad as y'all know), and she said yes she did want it. So I will give it to her some day, and she said she will give it to GD someday.
X also went over to where S18 has been living and talked to him about why he is not coming home. X also offered for S18 to go live with him and GF. But, S18 said he wants to come back here and live with me. I talked to him and we set some ground rules, and he is coming back here on Sunday. I am concerned about how this will work out, but I will be very glad to have him home!!
X took S18 out to dinner and then drove over to D24's place to visit and see GD!! It was X's idea!! This is a big deal because, as I said, X and D24 have major issues! D24 was absolutely tickled that they "dropped by"!
Although X is still mostly cold and distant to me, I am very very grateful he is making efforts for my kids!
TJ
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