This threat didn't become overwhelming until after you were married. So there was a time--before the marriage--when he was sexual and the threat of failure was NOT a problem? Is that true?
Yes, we have discussed this and can pinpoint when troubles started with when we moved back to our hometown before we married and his mother decided to give us the 'if you marry her you will be committing adultry because she is divorced' talk. That, combined with the testosterone issues have made it a mind and body issue for him.
Originally Posted By: garyjlost
What activities did you share together before the marriage? Did you go to movies? Did you go to shows? Did you share any hobbies? Is it possible to resume activities that were part of the courtship phase? If you can, it may help re-establish a romantic atmosphere.
We used to play golf, bowl, take long walks, play pool and go to the movies alot when dating. Due to my physical limitations I can no longer take part in those activities. As for going to the movies, sitting still for that ammount of time is very painful for me, so we instead wait for tings to come out on DVD... I try to get him to watch the movies with me, but I usually end up watching them alone after owning them for a few months and later he will watch the movie by himself.
M- 11 y H- 40 Me- 41 D (1st M) 19 S (1st M) 17 First EA (w/OOW)discovered 2000 Third EA (w/OOW & phone) discovered 02/06 SSM (total) 3 1/2 years
