Puppy, thank you for responding. One question is I thought I was not supposed to talk about the relationship. He shuts me down pretty hard if I do bring anything up and I think it may be helping to not be involved at all. He has had coffee with me and our 6 year old the last two mornings and last night he totally helped me with some computer stuff and my Iphone. He pours us wine at night and we sit and watch tv together. There is just little talking.
You know my dilema about this weekend and now he is going back to CA next weekend for a nephews wedding that I was supposed to go and he told me it was too expensive to get me a ticket. That was a lie, but anyways, I booked a the weekend with my 3 kids to go to the beach next weekend while he is with the family. I am getting a life. this will be the first time I have ever ventured off on a vacation with the kids. It will cost a lot more than a plane ticket to the wedding, but too bad. I am spending quality time with the kids.
So that being said, should I just let it rest this weekend and deal with it later if he comes around? At what point is it ok to tell the kids if ever? It may not be beneficial to tell the kids, but my son is 18 and not stupid. My H has been telling the kids that this will be hard but they will get through. This kinda makes me angry and scared a bit because he is making it a reality to them, or maybe he is just blowing smoke because he himself is so very confused from losing a high powered job and not being able to find work and now he is doing this thing with this OW saying he is communicating with her. I guess my fear is this weekend he may do more than communicate, if he hasn't already. anyways, I have been really upbeat and making coffee in the morning and making great dinners and now this beach trip next weekend. I am feeling better about myself thinking I could do it on my own if I had to. I just need to get the job I applied for to support myself and kids. Any other advice is always greatly welcomed. thank you all for your continued support.
My DB coach said yesterday, this is a classic DB case that can so easily be turned around. I thought to myself, she has not met my H. their whole family of 9 kids have all been divorced and they can shut their feelings and emotions off like a switch and move on. I always thought my husband is different, but I am not sure. I really want to turn this around. Anyways I am babbling. Keep the support coming. It is very helpful and let me know if I am messing up. Thanks. K
