I'm new wondering if this works...

[BigJohn]

I feel your pain, and I am so sorry that you're going through all of this.

I have really been trying to switch my mindset to more of a "it must be horrible to be in her(W's)shoes." It would be horrible to find yourself so unhappy with your life one day. You'd know what you're doing goes against your wedding vows, will break up your family, hurt your children, devistate the spouse that loves you, cost you your home and financial stability. Yet, something is making them feel that they need to go. They're fighting fear of being unhappy forever. They're fighting the feeling that they will never find happiness within their families. They feel that happiness is awaiting them somewhere "out there" and we are in the way.

Then once in a while, just once in a while, they start to miss us. They sniff back around for a few minutes. Maybe it feels good then scares them. Maybe they're so sensitive at this point that a certain tone of voice sets them off.

What a horrible place they are in. Can you imagine?

(With that said...I want to go file myself this week and just be done with her. Hopefully this will pass.)

EB,

You make a good point here. Despite the pain we are all going through, I think we all need to reflect from time to time what our spouses must be thinking and going through.

Good luck to you in your sitch.