Michelle, I have a few more words. I truly feel for you being isolated with few friends at this time. I was in the same boat, in fact for a few months while I was trying to save my marriage I was in a different country and did not know a soul. It was horribly lonely, frankly the hell on earth you may be experiencing.
I managed by trying to get a life there, I found volunteer work in two places and just had to spill to strangers who seemed nice! When I got home I also was lonely, I had dedicated myself to my career which I did not have any more and had to make much better acquaintance with my neighbors and ask for help. For you it's different as your husband is still around the house and you have to be careful not to spill every piece of personal business to people who live around you.
But you do need an outlet for your feelings. Can you get a therapist to talk to weekly about this? I don't know your financial situation, there are church groups, divorce care, other things too, but if you can get someone in your area to help you in a clinical way it would be good.
I know you have no intention of dragging anything out. Neither did I. Be emotionally and mentally prepared that your husband could do so. He might not of course, but the way things have gone so far--he's going, he's not, etc makes me think he could try to manipulate the situation to meet his international visa and financial needs. I know my husband did that to me and it took three years from the time he filed to the time we got divorced and I never in any way tried to stop or hold up a single thing.
Find some support, it will be everywhere if you are open and ask, and take the high road. Keep your dignity, that is your strength in knowing when that boundary is crossed. Good luck, and if you have a good lawyer he or she will also be helpful. Wonder
