However, I have not had a chance to provide my view on things with regards to her actions over the years.
I'm not sure I understand. Are you saying that you have "never" over the years had opportunity to provide your view on things, or are you saying that recently you've not had a chance to provide a view on things?
I do understand the desire to want to justify yourself b/c I am the world's worst about that. But, a WAW will not listen and the more you try to tell her she's wrong about her POV, the more angry she will become and the farther away you will push her. In time you may have the right opportunity or maybe even with a MC, but don't try it now or without guidance from a C. I personally don't think MC do much for a couple unless they are familiar with the DB program and go hand in hand with it. Otherwise, it may cause more trouble than solve problems.
I know you want to express your hurt feelings, but again, I think she will not listen b/c she is at that "stage" and has had it!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
