LOL -"Mr Glib" Well, I asked him if he would think about it. The biggest problem is I can't reach retro to find out if they actually have space. I am just sick to my stomach waiting! I have emailed and left 2 voice mails today and haven't heard back.
I called H and said "You know how neither one of us is sure what to do with the other? Well, I think retro would give us much needed clarity; maybe we'd both decide we don't want to be married once it's over. I don't even know. I don't think I should be making big financial decisions without trying this and the next weekend won't be til next April. I can't wait that long." He was like "Geez, this is really short notice...I don't know. When is it?...I don't know...." I said that 3 days out of a whole life was nothing to 'sacrifice' and especially when it comes to something as important as a long term relationship.
I told him I just wanted him to think about it and that I wasn't even sure if we could get in; he said that he would think about it and that he wanted me to find out if we could get in while he thinks.
I feel like a cat on a hot tin roof. I wish I could just talk to a real person and find out if they have space. The waiting is torture since it starts the day after tomorrow!!!! And I feel like H needs as much notice as humanly possible at this point. I'm praying like mad that he says 'yes' and that there's room.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
I can't imagine that they would turn you away if you showed up at the door. You can contact me via FB and I'll see if my local people can contact your local people and get someone to call you. Are you on FB yet. Go through the introductions and you will find my email address.
I wish I knew what "door" to show up at- LOL They don't tell you exactly where it is at and on the site they say they want $150 to hold the spot. And to "register early because space is limited". YIKES! The stress, THE STRESS! I just dropped you an email!! Thanks!! (Of course, watch, after all of this, H will say "no"...well, I would rather him say "no" and then I know where I stand, then "Gee, I would have gone if there was space".
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
He is still thinking about it. He's irritated at the last minute'ness of it. He is supposed to jam Friday night and doesn't want to cancel with such short notice. :|
He wanted to know why I was so gung-ho on it. And then said "So the landlord wants to know if you want to buy the house? What do you think is going to happen? That we're going to go to this and then you'll move right back in? I can't see that happening."
I said that I was open to whatever, but no, I didn't think that we'd leave Sunday and I'd be moving back Monday. But if we're headed towards working towards reconciling, I'm sure the landlord would give me a few months to work on things; plus the house could still be put on the market in the meantime.
(I have to admit-- with how I feel right now, I don't want to risk not buying the house. But I feel like I need to at least give retro a chance. If it doesn't work, well, then, nothing would, right?)
He was very huffy and puffy about the whole thing. Asked if we could just go Saturday morning and skip Friday.... for a jam session. I am kinda ticked at the attitude. When you really love someone, three days is nothing. Picking a jam session over attempting to save your marriage.... well, that would say a lot.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
No, there is no coming the next morning for Retrouvaille. I don't believe that if Retro doesn't work nothing would. I don't know if there is any one way that is that good. But your last sentence does sum it up. If he picks a jam session over working with you to make the relationship better (even if it is not to save the marriage), then he does not give the relationship priority.
