Hey Julia,
I wouldnt advocate doing anything, if you feel you have had enough! Have you considered starting D proceedings and just quietly going ahead with that? Noone would blame you, seeing as he is living with another woman now.

As for the next guy.. I've lived with 3 and in my experience, the R was COMPLETELY different with all three and so was I really..(but then maybe thats because I am a chameleon Piscean!), no two R's are the same and like K says, you will be bringing valuable insight to a new R.

One thing I would say though, I used to thikn I was right, always right, to be myself.. but I now have learnt its ok to bend a little, or modify some of my less desirable taits (laziness, lying in bed all morning, being too clever for me own good etc).. in order to sustain a healthy R and that its more loving to do that. So if you know you are maybe too high maintenance...consider toning that down a little next time around !??

Al xxx


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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