Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Kat, T! Well, this is difficult, I get the big reconciliation and.. still living like a nun!

So had the BIG talk tonight about kids.. following up the briefer chat yesterday (hadnt escaped my notice this momumentous convo, first since early 2006, happened on the Uranus-Saturn thing.. ). He said he DOES want us to have kids, that he just thinks its not quite the right time, as we've been through alot and wants to have some time to enjoy each other and have fun for a little while.. but he's talking months delay, not years. I pointed out earlier that I am 39 soon and any delay now is risking it.. he had said he is concerned about money (I am a temp with no maternity rights) and wonders if we could wait until I am on a full-time contract.. I said, ok, you are right, we could potentially get 8 weeks min and upto 6 months maternity, what 4, 6, 7k? Or...if we delay until I have earned maternity rights.. that might mean we never have kids.

I also said, I dont know how fertile I am and I dont know how you would feel if it doesnt happen. He said, well.. you know I want kids. And then there was a big silence and some hugs and I feel that intuitevely, we may split up in 5-7 years time if we ry and it just doesnt happen. Its too theoretical and makes me too sad, but realistically, I feel our chances are slim, especially if we delay, so I was thrilled he wants to try in a few months time!!!

When I mentioned OUR ferility.. he straight away said, ok, I will go for tests when we get back and said he agreed it was a good idea for me to start taking folic acid right away. So.. crikey !!