Okay, won't panic. In your opinion, do you think it is appropriate for me to ask me if he has any plans for this coming weekend.
What I am trying to work out is if he does have plans that don't include me, I need to know as it will affect what I do and where I go as I won't have him around to collect D after two parties this weekend at around 1am in the morning.
I think his annoyance may be a good sign. Before he was able to pull you right back in with a little attention and it's not working now. Stay the course.
I wouldn't ask him if he has plans, and especially not if he has plans that don't include you. I don't think that you should have plans that include him. . How about just asking him "Would you pick up D at 1 a.m. on saturday night?"
I know what you mean about walking that fine line. I'm struggling with that too. Aiming to pull him further in, not send him further away.
I will make plans without him, It is just I am getting a bit sick and tired of him out partying every weekend, not even asking if I need help with D for pick ups. So he parties uninterrupted and I have to work around the pick ups which isn't fair.
I had a bad day the other day and was questioning everything, but I have come round now and am ready to get going again. Trying to follow Gucci's tactic but it is actually quite scary. But as I really do think he still loves me as he has said a number of times that he won't disappear in a hurry.
I was told today by a couple of complete strangers that I met for the first time at a business lunch that I was beautiful. It made my day. It is amazing how a simple compliment can lift your spirit so much.
What strikes me is that we can all see the error of our buddies ways but when it comes to our own sitch, we panic and want to do all the wrong things!!
Keep on track Oz - remember to lovingly detach, don't ask him what he's doing and don't believe a word that H says!!
Carry on with your GALing - indeed make sure that you are content H will pick up D and then go let your beautiful self hang out with those who YOU want to be with!!
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"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Definitley just ask him to pick D up one of the nights, beware of him asking why? Cos if he thinks he's gonna put paid to you going out the alien will rear its ugly head again, should it come up just say you want to have your options open one day of the weekend. Echo Nell how come we can see the path to go for someone else but our own H's set us off into a tailspin!
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Echo Nell how come we can see the path to go for someone else but our own H's set us off into a tailspin!
So true. It can be hard to step back from your feelings about your own H.
If any of you get a chance, I would appreciate your thoughts about the email I need to send my H now. I think this is a critical time and I don't want to blow it.
Nothing much to report at this end. No real conversation last night, just H slumped on the couch going to sleep as usual, what fun.
Supposed to be going to the movies tonight with friends, but I so just want to stay home tonight, coming down with a cold, so not feeling that great and with miserable weather here all I want to do is curl up on the couch.
Hi ((Oz)) - then I hope that you did stay home last night - afterall, this is supposed to be about US right? If you are not feeling that great, LOOK AFTER YOURSELF!!
Hope that it came to nothing though and you are feeling much better today?
H must be exhausted with all his 'out and about'. I should ignore it, if you can.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Well it is the afternoon here, feeling flat today, feeling as though I am treading water really getting nowhere. I know it can take time maybe it's just that the baby steps have been all over the place with a good dose of backsliding thrown in.
Still in two minds as to if to go out tonight. Part of me wants to and part of me doesn't want to. If I do go it gives H a chance again to come home to a house with no meal waiting and no me.
