I'm new wondering if this works...

[Energizer Bunny]

I share some of the blame for our sitch. I don't deny that.

I have to wait for her to bring up her issues though. If I tried to initiate that conversation she would be very defensive and make it seem as if I am placing all of the blame on her.

The best times have been when I have just been understanding (better at this than I used to be) when she starts to talk. I just sit and listen with very little feedback.

Good point about her giddy moods. Thanks.