Future, what do you think I have been doing for the last 4 or 5 months? We dont live together right now but everytime I see her I smell good I have new clothes and I tell her I have plans. It has not worked! Telling her "I have plans" is too weak for her. I need to tell her, "you are no good for me anymore and I have had it with you." I am fully ready for divorce at this point. I even called my lawyer today to see if there is any progress on getting another mediation date. No answer from lawyer though. I still want my marriage to be saved but I need to be "ok" with either outcome - divorce or reconcile.
V, In your previous post you said you "can predict" what will happen tonite. Then this post, you are correct you need to be prepared for etiher outcome. You sound angry and it is clouding your judgment. You have expectations which lead to resentments. You don't need to tell her anything. She can pick up on your vibe. So be strong, confident and in control.
What creates the music from a violin? Apply what you know to how to handle it. Can you play the violin uptight, angry or trying too hard? Find the groove.
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M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
