I agree that you shouldn't have to tell your spouse. I might say, (and have said) I have a support site that helps me to get through things. but not where and certainly won't let H read. I should be able to have my privacy to work through issues with out it being invaded.

I am not ashamed of what I have posted either. the only reason my spouse hates the fact I have a support site is that he knows strangers know about our(his) issues and that just irritates him to no end. He wants noone to know.

JAK

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez