I'm new wondering if this works...

[Energizer Bunny]

Tips? I would be a hipocrite to give any. I've having a bad week with that myself. That mindset is the only thing that has given me peace recently.

I think of how much I love/have loved her and how bad she must be feeling to be so unhappy with the life that we have put together that she wants to run away from it.

I know I feel bad, but at least I know I'm doing the right thing. I can look in the mirror, in my son's eyes, at my family, and pray to God without questioning my recent actions. I cannot imagine the inner conflict she must be going through. In the back of her (and his) mind they have a little tiny quiet voice that doesn't really want to do this. Otherwise it would be done. They just have an overshelming feeling...feeling of need to go, to change something. To "go find their happiness."

That must be such a dark place.

Sorry, I don't have any tips besides to just think about it from that perspective.

I even told my W that I can't imagine how she must feel. I told her that I love her enough to let her go if that is what would truly make her happy. I do love her and I want her to be happy.

I just don't think this is the way to get there. I have an image of her "waking up" one day asking herself, "What the hell happened? Why is my husband with someone else? Who is that other woman in my house tucking my S in at night?"

THAT would suck! Especially holding the knowledge that YOU were the one responsible for it. Some people will be able to convince themselves that it's not their fault, but not everyone. How do I know this? My mother did EXACTLY this to our family. 26 years later she still struggles with that guilt. She woke up...it was just too late in her case.