If you don't eat your dinner: you won't get dessert. you will go to bed.
Just examples.
A boundary example for your wife...no. Not yet.
An example of validation with your wife.
Wife- "You never listened to me." You - "I understand, I am sorry and I can see how you thought that, at times I didn't listen to you. I am aware of that failing."
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK