Alright, so we talked today instead of emailing, which I personally hate emailing this crap anyways. He wrote down his side of things as follows:
We will continue the “separation" as it has been since November ‘08 • Stronger will have her time to make sure D is the option • External forces will be left out of the decision making process during this time period • The time period will be from 9/16/09 to 11/07/09 (this is when he has to answer the filing for divorce since he filed in early July) and during this time: o We will continue to care for S as we have been: o H will watch him during Stronger’s tennis o Stronger will watch him during H’s golf o H will care for him until 8pm those nights (flexibility based on work, etc) ** o Stronger will still do the laundry, while H will still continue his household responsibilities, including the lawn, etc. o The bills will continue to be split as they are now NO MORE TALK OF OTHER RELATIONSHIPS OR ENDING THIS ONE WILL BE PERMITTED At the end of this agreement, if divorce is the option, it will be worked out between H and Stronger and then brought to mediation. No further extensions will be forced or asked for The termination will be completed amicably in the best interest of the child During the time period, the separation will continue as it has been….relationship status of H and Stronger is not together.
I kind of think this is crap. But I'm opened to hearing other's opinion.
I won't agree to him being able to bail at 8pm. He'll have to continue to be there over night as S is a night crawler and exhausting Mommy, who is a morning person.
The last bit that we are not together.....not sure how I feel about that. Can we really be working on things but not together? Not exclusive? He said we are dating, but not exclusively. He said he has no interest in anyone else so I said then we should be able to be exclusive, no problem, right? Am I wrong? Truly, I'm asking.
Opinions? Suggestions are welcome too. My initial reaction is screw it, let's divorce. This sounds to me like he wants to divorce but is afraid of what is going to come out during the divorce like his cheating, etc.
