I had a very similar (short) discussion with her last night, and appreciate the need to be gentle.
Did your W say that you were making it "all about you?" My W goes this route everytime I use "I statements" and I recall reading your W has done this in the past too.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.