Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

[are you kidding]

Again, how do I make boundaries, if I am not there? And she won't listen to a suggestion now, I missed my opportunity when she said she would leave and she did look at apts.

I blew it.Do you think I might get a second chance.Because what I have been doing is trying to have someone persuade her to move on for awhile.

[brandnewday]

Breathe....

The boundaries are for you.

If you are trying to work something out with your wife regarding the kids then that needs to be clear and specific.

You can not appear to be a bull in a china shop, hollering orders and taking control.

How old are your children?

[Boat14]

Do you think I might get a second chance.

Because what I have been doing is trying to have someone persuade her to move on for awhile.

Not if you don't quit trying to manipulate the situation.....

Think before you act, think about how YOU would feel if someone did something like this to you....

Think if that is what YOU want out of a relationship....

[Boat14]

BND is correct...

Boundries are for you...What affects you.

Boundries come in time, with a specific purpose intended.

Don't make the mistake of trying to be macho and find any excuse to lay down a boundry.

Find the time for your children. That is the one thing you can never get back....TIME with them.

Look at it this way, if there was something in your life that you really wanted to do, and you made that a priority, there would be no searching to find a way, or the time to do that....

Make them a priority, and the answers will find you....

[are you kidding]

D14,S11.

D is loving the fact she is getting away with murder.

She's just riding this week out so she can go back to what she was enjoying. She even told me so and I believe her,I've already heard from other parents what has been going on at my house.

[are you kidding]

No with them, I've just been Dad, but I used to be asked, now I'm being told what they're going to do. It is just mind boggling.

I ignored my daughters text yesterday, asking if MLC could come home today and in return D would do whatever I wanted on Sunday.

I know why,since I've been gone,there has been parties,drinking,sleep overs and sex,fortunately that was someone else's teen.My D has not said a word.

And my MLC did not tell me.MLC said can't handle D right now,but of course not to me,but a parent that was BS!MLC is the first to threaten me if I try to do something. I did text MLC she called. I know what's been going on and she said not all true.My S is being quiet,but has said that D is having all kinds of people over while MLC is in the garage with EA.

Today is the first day this week, I have not gotten a call from another parent or neighbor.

The kids are out of school starting tomorrow for school conferences.

[are you kidding]

Sunday is when we talked, I let her go first. That's when MLC said, deciding to put her foot down and not rescue the kids.

Then told me how to parent. Well it hasn't worked out to well. I feel like a babysitter.

[brandnewday]

So where do you want to begin?

Make a list.

You post so much and so quickly that it is hard to keep up.

So, from what I understand you are not living in the family home? Or she is not living in the family home?

I am confused.

[are you kidding]

We are switching weeks now, but for a month and a half I have been out of the home, she kicked me out. And told me she would tell me when I could come home. So I got a place last month,but the kids are not coming over.

My only list is how to get in the house,give her space and be a parent and how best to do that.

[are you kidding]

I think its a good idea to drop off my ideas to her counselor

YOUR ideas to HER counselor?

I am pretty sure that is a horrible idea. Right up there with New Coke.

Yeah I changed my mind on that.