WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Are you kidding? She contacted you all day. That's meaningful. She's trying to get your attention again because you responded to her before. And not in a healthy way. Back way off.

I'm still not sure how meaningful it is with respect that there are a lot of tactical things, and sprinkled in between are the other non-tactical text/pictures. I did respond to one of the many ones where I said I was really busy at work so I hadn't replied but thanked her for forwarding the info. She replied back calling me by an old nickname we used to joke about saying that was no problem as she was just passing along info but thanked me and hoped I was ok. I didn't respond to that one.

She called me this morning asking me if I wanted to buy something from a fund raiser my 7 year old was having. I just said no, I was good and hung up nicely.

If you want to get her back, then I would say you need to do the "gucci" method of being disinterested in her. Go out and continue to GAL. When she calls you for the boys at night, tell her you're out, or busy. GAL! If not, you're going to go right back into falling into her traps again.

I do want to renew my marriage relationship with her but I just don't see anyway that we can have one that I would be happy with. Sometimes, I think there is just too much pain/hurt that's transpired to start fresh (ironically that is something she had said to me this year). I had told her that on the call on Friday nite, where I feel like I'm now thinking and saying the same things to her as she had said to me earlier this year.

I have been getting a life. When I am in NY, I do go out every nite and do things for me. Right now I'm focused on getting an apartment, but I do go for a run and talk to my friends and go out to dinner/drinks with them. I do talk to my boys every nite though - either she calls me or I call them. I always make sure I have access to skype at those times in case "magically" the laptop works at her apt.

I'm not sure what's going on but I am taking what people are saying and trying to fit it appropriately in my situation. I do try to get a life and work on me. That is the best I can do for me and my boys for what ever lies ahead

I so appreciate everyone's passion in their thoughts/opinions as they try to help me through this insanity. I know I wouldn't have gotten this far (where ever here is) without the people here.

Thanks

I'm not sure if I was expecting more from Friday's call or it's all part of the process that I need to be patient about or it's true, I have fully detached, but do feel like I'm getting closer.