If I said don't text or call her in front of me he would say too bad. How do I set a boundary with that response. He has already moved to an upstairs bedroom and has not had sex with me since the end of July. I guess he doesn't want to cheat on the OW with his wife. Anyways, I guess that is good, since I don't want to have sex with him now anyways. I know nothing about this OW and really I don't know what good it would do in the long run for ME if I called her. I do have her number from phone records. He refuses to wear his wedding ring so she may not even now he is married I have no idea.
He has no interest in joining us this weekend, well because he is going to CA to see the OW, but before he told me he was going to be gone he said don't count on me being around--although he made his reservations Sunday night because I was standing behind him watching so he already knew he would be gone before I started to make plans. That is why I am making plans and he asked me what my rush was to do it this weekend and I told him I figured he would be gone so I thought I would spend family time with the kids.
I know I need to keep my end goal in mind, however sometimes I think he is just not worth it, but then I look at my little 6 year old who loves her Daddy and think maybe it is all worth it. Please have Puppy Dog Tails explain good boundary setting and any other advice. I am open to anything. thanks a lot for your support.
