H wants a D so we can date...each other! WTF??!

[Trixi]

First off, I had some recent posts in the Surviving Divorce Forum, (well, from mid-august) where I asked if I should start a business with him..oh, and we weren't supposed to talk for 3 months...that lasted a couple/few weeks. (Here's the link to the other post about the biz Do I start Biz?


Here's where we are today; a few weeks ago we went to my girlfriend's wedding and he said stuff like "You're totally awesome and I'm a real jerk" and when we were snuggled up on the couch asked "Do you think we'd get bored with this if we did it all the time?" He says that he is really "thinking" about "us".

This past weekend I did a little "Gucci" on him and went to a concert spontaneously. He asked to come over (at the last second) and I was able to say I was not home and at a concert. The next morning, first thing, he was texting me to see how it was and offering to come over in the afternoon to help me fix the trailer. While here, I mentioned I only had one dessert that comes in a two pack and he said "What?! you ate one without ME?" Me "yup" Him "You ate a blossom without me AND you went to a concert without me...Who are you??" He said it joking, but I think there was a tinge of jealousy.

I had too much wine and ended up being a little too honest and a bit weepy. I did at one point say "retro is next weekend-will you go?" and he laughed and said "no". I dropped it. We did have some good talks that night; the biggest thing being that he doesn't let anyone get close- he is bitter towards God (because a pastor blew him off when his first marriage was falling apart). He used to think that "simple things" would make him happy, but that didn't work out (ie 'family') and he has tried buying all sorts of things and those things didn't make him happy. He's afraid to be close to people.

Okay, down to brass tacks. My landlord needs to know if I am buying the house. Retrouvaille is THIS weekend and not back until April. I think that before I go buying a house, H and I should attend retro.

What would you do? Should I just give up?