I'm sorry it's gotten to this point, Stronger. I understand a little more the progression of things now. I am with you on wondering why they file when things are going better - it's like they need to have that control - the "just in case" option, or the "do what I want or else" pressure. I often wish I could just walk away and say "Call me when and if you stop this ridiculous plan. If you continue, follow through and good bye". But we love them too much.
I also regret giving him his cake and eating it too. But what else can we do? We have done our best. Now it's time for you. You put your needs out there after a long road of putting his first. You deserve to be acknowledged. I'm all for the self esteem. And resting. I don't think ultimatums are necessarily bad - the LBS needs to say "Sh*t or get off the pot" at some point.
