What do you do for yourself where you aren't constantly thinking about this? Hobbys? Things you like to do? Things you stipped doing that you liked or enjoyed before you were married?
You also said you wrote out a list of failings what are you doing to correct...some of those, the big ones, the failings you don't like in yourself? Stay away from the ones that require your wife's participation, she won't help you right now, she won't care she will correctly think it is a trick. And it will be a trick until you make those changes soley for you.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
