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Re: How do you wait this out? Twink #1837582 09/14/09 08:54 PM
Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,478 K Kimmie Lee Member
Kimmie Lee Member K Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,478	Ahem..... No way in hell does he get to run you out of your own house just because he would be uncomfortable with you there. You cannot trust a man who walks out on you. You have every right to be there when he comes over.

Re: How do you wait this out? Golfgirl1 #1837586 09/14/09 08:55 PM
Joined: Nov 2001 Posts: 749 Wasilla, Alaska shewholurks Member
shewholurks Member Joined: Nov 2001 Posts: 749 Wasilla, Alaska	GG, If the 2pm time is not acceptable to you because you can't be there then you need to respond with an alternate time {or two so that he has options} that is acceptable. This is business. In a business situation if you were unable to make a meeting you would suggest another time. Do the same with him. If he refuses then do whatever you have to do to make sure that you are there when he arrives. Just because his name is on the house doesn't mean you have to roll over and give him the run of the place. ~ swl Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}

Re: How do you wait this out? shewholurks #1837592 09/14/09 09:03 PM
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 802 CO G Golfgirl1 OP Member
OP Golfgirl1 Member G Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 802 CO	I have not problem with him coming to get his things, I just really would like to be there. I was just planning on suggesting another time that works for the both of us. Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10 Life is all about Plan B

Re: How do you wait this out? Golfgirl1 #1837622 09/14/09 09:35 PM
Joined: Aug 2009 Posts: 1,317 L Lost Rabbit Member
Lost Rabbit Member L Joined: Aug 2009 Posts: 1,317	I think thats the best idea GG, rearrange a more suitable time for you! Would you mind popping over and reading my thread if you arnt busy could do with some insight please.. ____________________________ W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30 Once lost but now found and happily married again!

Re: How do you wait this out? Golfgirl1 #1837694 09/15/09 12:57 AM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 550 S Silver Fox Member
Silver Fox Member S Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 550	Thanks for posting. Now set up a meeting time that is convenient for you and meet him at the door in a pair of those hot shoes you just bought. Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10

Re: How do you wait this out? Silver Fox #1837714 09/15/09 01:42 AM
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 802 CO G Golfgirl1 OP Member
OP Golfgirl1 Member G Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 802 CO	YES! The 4" black pumps with the tight black mini skirt??? Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10 Life is all about Plan B

Re: How do you wait this out? Golfgirl1 #1838585 09/16/09 11:01 AM
Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow B brandnewday Member
brandnewday Member B Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow	Just checking on you...... There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.

Re: How do you wait this out? Golfgirl1 #1838667 09/16/09 02:27 PM
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 802 CO G Golfgirl1 OP Member
OP Golfgirl1 Member G Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 802 CO	BND, Doing okay, had a support group meeting last night. I think it will help, it's good to hear from others. H has agreed to come over on Sat. when I will be home. He also agreed to take our German Shepherd to the vet for her shots. I was really appreciative and told him so. Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10 Life is all about Plan B

Re: How do you wait this out? Golfgirl1 #1838675 09/16/09 02:44 PM
Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow B brandnewday Member
brandnewday Member B Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow	When he comes over, DON'T follow him around the house, please give him his space. Don't ask questions. Don't tell him about all of the changes you are making. No relationship talk. If you act as if this is YOUR house, instead of OUR house you will make him uncomfortable and defensive. There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.

Re: How do you wait this out? brandnewday #1838677 09/16/09 02:54 PM
Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 802 CO G Golfgirl1 OP Member
OP Golfgirl1 Member G Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 802 CO	All great advice...will do! Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10 Life is all about Plan B

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