When he comes over, DON'T follow him around the house, please give him his space.

Don't ask questions.

Don't tell him about all of the changes you are making.

No relationship talk.

If you act as if this is YOUR house, instead of OUR house you will make him uncomfortable and defensive.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.