WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[Coach]

Stronger, By disagreeing with you I am not attacking you. If you feel that way, I am sorry. Not my intention to make you feel attacked. I actually like a lot of what you post:

I know with my H, when I've "walked" or explained to him, "You are right, let's end this" he back tracks big time. I try not to get to those points where we have those conversations but sometimes, as you know, we get pushed and it's do or die. Respected or become a door mat. I was a door mat long enough.

I think my H is finally at a point where he understands "Ok, Stronger doesn't want this D, but she's ready to go forward with it" and he's not quite sure what to do or think.

That's the tough love/detached place you need to get to the "see" clearly. That's the place CIPA needs to get to before he starts a new courtship with his wife.

"Patience is the companion of wisdom" - St Augustine

Just think CIPA needs to take his time for himself. Sounds like he is getting there.

Cheers
Coach