v1olin, I'm still here and following.

Remember, she is NOT interested in you, what you are doing and does not want you... or so she says. I'd say ignore her. Ignore the anniversary. Don't give her any attention.

Go on your date. She's the one who is cheating and ripping your guts out. Why do you want to reward her behavior by acknowledging the anniversary.

You've got to carry on detaching. Only when she feels she has lost you for good can any kind of reconciliation take place. Move on in the opposite direction. You've tried the begging, pleading, acts of service etc. already and they haven't worked.

I'd say go as dark as possible. Show no emotions or interest in her. Any communication you have with her should be about the kids, just the kids and only the kids. Let her worry about you for a change -- if she's capable of this.

How is the custody issue coming on?


M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married
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