You said he has never mentioned ow... so why dont you then? Why dont you stop DBing and just be honest.. lay your cards on the table, or stop colluding with him on the facade he maintains? In a way, that IS DBing, because its in the category, do something different.. Remember the convo I had with my bf in April? I said to him, first time ever... ok, I know you are with Helen now and if you love her and are happy and intend to stay with her, then I will accept that, but I still love you and think we can sort this out, but if you only want to be friends with me, then I will be your friend for life, but you have to let me know which it is. He then cried alot and said, you are right.. I need to man up and make a decision. Which he then did do.
I dont know if your H would have that reaction, but at least you would know and you would know you had done all you could?
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
