Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[Hope4us]

I have no idea what would have happened if I'd have dated someone, but I wouldn't have gone there because it was against my own convictions.

Now that doesn't mean my W didn't wonder if I was seeing someone because once or twice a week I would go out and I rarely told her where I was going or what I was doing. Most of the time I'd just go to a sports bar that has those trivia games and sit at the bar, have some dinner and play the game. And if I'd wanted to go there, I had a number of opportunities to get my manly needs taken care of by some women I met. But I wouldn't go there. Don't get me wrong. It was a great ego boost to have an attractive woman hit on me, but that's as far as it went. I continued doing this without telling her where I was going until she started to actually warm up to me 3 months or so after I'd exposed to the kids and our S17's shredding of her ended the A.

I will tell you a funny story. The first time I just took off and went out by myself while the A was still physical, it really had my W thinking. The next day I took a look at her cell phone while she was in the shower and her and OM were trading TM's like crazy. What's the dikhead doing? Where's he at? He's probably paying a hooker. He's probably got a girlfriend.

LOL. It cracked me up. They have a PA for 9 months and I go out to dinner by myself and immediately I'm cheating on her. Guess people in that kind of deal think everyone does it.

I guess the point is, you don't have to actually date someone to make her wonder. If she'd have ever asked me, I'd have told her the truth. But if she didn't want to ask, I wasn't going to tell her.

And now when W and I go to that sports bar and the hot bar maids talk to me by name and smile and laugh with me, I'm sure she wonders, but she still hasn't asked me a thing about what I was doing when I'd go out.

I think you've probably had this advise before and have read it here before, but if you do things to GAL and the WAS thinks you're moving on without them, it can have an affect on their thinking.