Bonny, love all your reflections. I'm there with you. Maybe it's because we're both hovering around that 2 year mark. I love H but until I see real, consistent actions and not just words I'm feeling jaded with him. I think Laurie might have a point with the occasional contact...it leaves the door open just slightly for communication to grow but allows you to continue in nc mode enough to let him know you are moving on without him and certainly don't need him. I have a photo of the kids which I might send him just to test his response.
As for finding a date.....I'm strongly relating to that too. I'm hoping now that i am moving away from H I might be putting out a stronger vibe to friends and family that I am more open to considering the possibilities.