I'm getting along okay. I'm not at all where I want to be - still have demons to slay, though no one else would know that.
You're right about trying not to compare, though it's hard for me not to do so. I haven't had a R yet since D so am still trying to accept new women for who they are rather than my XW.
Interesting you mention R with men. Why? I have to admit that I don't have many friendships with the guys around here. Most of them spend all their time working and won't go do stuff. I think older guys have a really hard time making new friends.
I don't think I'm out the other side yet, but I'm getting there. I definitely have a much better perspective on relationships, but I also feel like I had a pretty good one to start with. I was always willing to compromise where my XW insisted on having her way. In the long run, I think I'm more capable of handling a R than my XW. The difference is that now I will pay more attention to the red flags. And try to stay truer to myself so I don't end up depressed.
