wife left, wants divorce, possibly bipolar

[ryepatch]

Ryepatch... just remember that Manic Depression is a chemical imbalance, not just a 'mental illness' and look at her actions and you will see that they fit into phases oc the cycle for her.

Paranoia can be a manifestation of hyper-mania heading to rage... her mind is zipping a mile a minute "does he know my number??? I changed it bit someone will tell him... I had better change it again.... I had better change companies completely... if I answer his e-mails then he might find me... I can't think about this now.... I will think about it later...."

Unfortunately, you have no clue what your friends are being told, in hypermania and mania the person often tells people what they suspect as fact, elaboraing it and filling in details until they become actual memories that they cannot tell from reality. You really have two choices... try to contact a few select old friends that you were close to and ask if they want to go out and do something (you need to stop hiding and start living) or create new friends with people you know but never palled around with.

My suggestion would be for you to call your local legal aide office and see if someone can give you some suggestions for self-protection in this process as well as things you should do about the divorce papers that have not been served. You really have no proof that she filed so now would be the time to get some legal advice, it may just be an empty threat on her part to keep distance.

BT,

thanks for replying again. i did see a lawyer for a free consultation and they looked up in the computer and found out she filed on July 22. Basically the divorce is only theoretical until i'm served. . . if i avoid being served successfully, eventually there's a process she can use to serve me indirectly (publishing notice in the newspaper 4 consecutive weeks), but she has to show a good faith effort to find where i am by contacting friends and family, internet search, etc.

i can't use legal aid, since she already used it and i'm listed as an "opposing party."

i heard that she tried to serve me back in july, but i was out of town, getting mail forwarded, and it got stuck at the other post office.

but since then, i have no proof she's tried to serve me, just one or two knocks on the door i didn't answer. haven't seen her or heard anything for 3 wks, since i ran into her in a parking lot and told her i'd do an easy divorce (give up my rights) if she sat down and talked to me.

i'm hoping she's slowing down on the whole thing, who knows.

i''m trying to meet people online but it's slow going. i only have one friend in town that's still talking to me (mostly we had common friends). we never had close friends in town, only been here a couple years.

i'm surprised she hasn't lost her job yet. . . i could call her there anytime, but i'll bet they wouldn't let me talk to her.

thanks everyone.