But, I keep coming back to my kids. Can I look them in the face one day and tell them I did everything I could to try to save the M? If I can say yes, then it is time to move on. If not, I keep trying. So far, the answer to that question has not been yes.
I can't think of a better way to ask her to go with you to Retrouvaille than the one you stated above. Thing is, when you decide to go, it doesn't matter what else you have going on, you will put Retrouvaille first. Until it is more important than a trip to Disney, maybe you aren't ready for it.