I don't know of anyone who didn't come to this site looking for answers. I did. I wanted to know what I could do right NOW. What would make him see and understand what he was doing, to me, to our D's. If I just knew what action to take. This is a great guy that just didn't get it right? If I could just get through to him... (hint: I am the one who didn't get it.)
It didn't work that way for me (quick answers) and I honestly don't know of anyone it did. You're spinning and your brain is in overdrive. We all get that. Not a one of us hasn't been there (check the registered dates for some of the folks posting to you).
That you need to read and fill you head with as much into as you can get regarding this is fine. Don't share it with her. It won't help. It is just pressure.
While you are reading, don't respond with knee jerk responses that are meant to punish or wake her up. Talking and initiating talks about your marriage and relationship will just push her farther away.
I'm 2 years and 8 months into this, 1 1/2 years separated (physically not legally)I am not piecing, nor am I divorced.
Jack and BND are still married.
We all have our own stories and they are all unique. Please be patient.
