Hey Gucci, Puppy, RobX and Coach!

[BigJohn]

[QUOTE] The biggest thing I've done to turn the tide is to be proactive in pushing for the D. Just think of it as a poker bluff, the more convincing the better. Hey, if it works, great, and if it doesn't work, well then you were going to get D anyway, so at least you maintained some pride and dignity. I think the whole dating thing is similar. It drives home the reality that you are really going to be GONE. The WAW is so self centered, so egotistical, that they truly believe you'll always be there for them.

The whole goal of DBing is to chip away at that false sense of security and swagger. While they're in the honeymoon phase of an A, it's impossible, as their sense of reality is distorted by the love chemicals in their brain, but after a few months that wears off, and slowly but surely reality sets in. That's when they become suceptible to the fear of loss. Can be frustrating at first, when everyhing we do seems to just bounce off them, but don't worry, that armor is cracking, slow but sure.

Future,

Great points. Very much my same thought process.

Thanks.