Hey Gucci, Puppy, RobX and Coach!

[BigJohn]

Hey BigJohn, it's been a while, what's your current status, where is your wife, any improvement lately with your sitch?

RobX,

Nice to hear from you. Last we talked, I had just filed for D and was looking at how to manage my W seeing is how we are S but under the same roof. Well, my W filed a response to my D petition seeking joint legal custody and sole physical custody for the kids. My W and I discussed the physical custody issue and she said she would be willing to "bestow" upon me a maximum 30% visitation/custody without going to court. I said bull$h*t to that offer, I think I'll take my chances with the mediator and the judge. My W never moved off this 30% maximum custody offer so in response, I filed a supplemental custody declaration in which I agreed to joint legal custody but am seeking primary physical custody- on at least a temporary basis -until my W can get her personal situation under control. If and when that happens, then I'll consider 50/50 joint physical custody. I just filed the supplemental custody declaration today so my W will probably be served in the next day or two. I'll let you know how that turns out.

Regarding the S issue, my W is still living at the house. We pretty much try to avoid one another although recently I got suckered into a nasty R talk- see my prior post. Recently my W told me out of the blue that OM dumped her after I filed because he was "feeling guilty about breaking up our M" and my W "needed to work things out on her own". We all know that is a crock and that if OM did cut off contact with my W it didn't last long- he's just as dependent on her pumping up his pitiful little ego. I'm sure they are both right back at it by now.

Right now my W is at least acting like she is definitely in favor of a D, telling me recently how she has no interest whatsoever to "rekindle" any romance with me; that "You (me) can just forget reconciling with me (W)" and "I don't love you and I don't even like you anymore." I'm definitely a "villian" in my W's eyes and I can only assume that the hamster wheel in her brain is working overtime right now building and/or shoring up rationalizations for D'ing me.

Concurrent with these statements and behavior is my W's growing realization as to how bad D is going to be for everyone- especially her! I know she is really down on the possibility of being alone 50% of the time while I have the kids- she has used them this whole time as a crutch. I also think that realizing that she is going to have to work full time now herself once we D is also something that she is having a hard time with. So the fantasy of life after D is starting to sink in a little.

As to where I'm at, I think I'm basically there in terms of detachment- or resignation- or both. I'm just tired of her bull$h*t, I'm done with it and with her- absent some miracle of course. I'm focusing on my kids right now and protecting us (the kids and I) financially as best I can from my W.

That's it in a nutshell.