Okay, won't panic. In your opinion, do you think it is appropriate for me to ask me if he has any plans for this coming weekend.
What I am trying to work out is if he does have plans that don't include me, I need to know as it will affect what I do and where I go as I won't have him around to collect D after two parties this weekend at around 1am in the morning.
I think his annoyance may be a good sign. Before he was able to pull you right back in with a little attention and it's not working now. Stay the course.
I wouldn't ask him if he has plans, and especially not if he has plans that don't include you. I don't think that you should have plans that include him. . How about just asking him "Would you pick up D at 1 a.m. on saturday night?"
I know what you mean about walking that fine line. I'm struggling with that too. Aiming to pull him further in, not send him further away.
