Sweetie, I know that his filing changed things. I do. And I know you have fought this hard.
But what we have been telling you is not for him. I dont really care what the hell happens to him. It is you I care about.
And I see you spinning your wheels giving him a list of things you want to change and all and that is where I am telling you, just stop. Not because of him, because of you. Because he cant give you that right now. He cant.
He is all inside out and upside down. You just said it yourself. He says he wants to go out, he comes over. He wants to work on things, he's not sure. Its because he is a mess.
So, it is for you that I am telling you this. If you need to know what he is going to do regarding the filing - you can ask him that question. It is all the other things that will not get you anywhere right now.
And yes, of course if you pull away, he picks up the slack. And if you ask him if he wants a divorce, he says he doesnt know. If you dont ask him, his actions speak for him. That is why we tell you to let him alone to figure it out himself and walk his journey. And you walk yours.
Listen, if you have had enough, then I support you completely. And I want you to feel satisfied that you did all you could.
