I've been separated since I was 32. I don't want to wake up at 40 and find that I've wasted all that time in an R that had no chance.
A D won't stop my H or myself from reconciling, if that time ever comes - but I don't see my H even close to that point.
Each time the topic comes up, H insists he wants to move forward with D and that he's never coming back. I can't keep ignoring that. I have no interest in being in a R where the other person doesn't want me. But even forgetting about what he wants, it's what I want now, although not what I had hoped.
I know H is still in crisis mode and I do feel for him. I don't think that continuing to enable him is doing him any favors.
