wife left, wants divorce, possibly bipolar

[ryepatch]

BT,

thanks for the long post. i've been going to DBSA (Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance) support groups (Tristan, you might want to check them out too, I can find the link if you need it). Everyone says to just hang in there and try to avoid and slow down the divorce.

The cats I'm not too sure about, she does say she can't deal with them because of associations. She didn't even want either of our vehicles because of associations. She wants a fresh new life. I just don't feel like I should be left with all the emotional baggage myself, either, I need to emotionally detach. And I feel like she should have to be the one who makes the decision to give them up. I have trouble believing she would hurt them. And I keep on thinking it'll make her think of all the good times if she had to see them again and make that decision.

Any more perspectives on this would be greatly appreciated.

I'm going to keep on hanging in there. . . it's hard when I feel like I have to hide when someone knocks on the door. This is just such a crazy situation I'm in.

It really bothers me, too, that (except for one) none of our friends in town are talking to me, and none of her family. I wish I knew what she was saying about me.

I want tot give her the benefit of the doubt, but the fact that she can't even speak to me or read my emails and changed her phone number even though i haven't been calling her, it just doesn't make sense. It's like she's obsessed with cutting me out completely, and I don't know why. I figure it has to be something mentally wrong with her. Every other post I read, there's some contact leading up to a divorce.