Yes - the limbo state we are in is her choice, not mine.
So, those are the cards you (and many of us here) have been dealt. What you do with them is your choice.
You can choose to wait around for her to do something or go ahead and live your life. If the former, you will not change and will be pretty miserable. If the latter, then get busy GAL'ing, making changes to you for you, and be happy.
