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This is random, so bear with me, she is going to a counselor, that's a positive and she currently doesn't have her libido,which i think for sure is a definate plus.

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Dude,

Slow down, breathe, and call your doctor immediately. Seriously! Lexapro is an anti-depressant and basically works by speeding things up for a person in their mind. If you have ADD, then lexapro is more than likely not for you and is making your ADD symptoms many times worse. You don't need the extra speed...you need a drug to help slow you down. Your post are a fine example of over the top ADD...lack of focus, jumpy, all over the place. The internet is full of posts of people with ADD and ADHD reporting increased ADD symptoms while on lexapro.

Right now....this is step one of DB'ing for you...call the doctor, tell him how you are behaving, and then let them reevaluate your prescription.

I am serious....I have ADD and took lexapro for 7 days...it seriously messed me up. Also be aware of the withdrawal....it is a bitch and a half.


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Ok.

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Ok so what do I need to do so I don't get divorced in 6 months?

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I need to get my son, Look forward to seeing what you DB'ers have for me.
Lostforwards,then you know how this kicking my butt,right now,what did you do to force yourself to do it.You of all people know how impulsive and risk taking we can be.

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Quote:

Ok so what do I need to do so I don't get divorced in 6 months?


Patience.

And that wasn't some BS cutesy simple answer to sound all zen.

You will need patience.

Force yourself to stop knee-jerk reactions to her actions.

Stop trying to force your will on the situation.

Slow down.

There is no quick fix here, and no you aren't different in that you will find one...it doesn't exist.

I am lucky in that I am one of the quickest through my wife's MLC, and that took a couple of years, and tested me more than I ever thought it would.

BUT I am a success because of who I have become, not because my wife came back.



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AYK,

If you don't want to be divorced in 6 months, you will have to slow way down and breathe. Breathe before you respond to her, before you do anything, hell, before you breathe, breathe.

Easier said than done. Do you work out? Anything physical worked best for me esp in the beginning when my brain would not shut up. Still does. If nothing else, how about a walk...

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where is that chapter on validation?

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I lm for my counselor to suggest how to parent and protect when i am not here.Any ideas,how far do I push this?

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getting on toward the time of day when most people aren't around AYK.

Check out this LINK within the DB boards.

It is the MLC Resource thread.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...e=1&fpart=1

Have a good night.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

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