He did shut the door, slammed it as a matter of fact when he flat out told her about things in her mouth and because of that she had no right to any part of him and she was nothing more than a street walker. He went incredibly hard on her. And she deserved every word of it.
No that is righteous anger coming out. His wife betrayed him. never communicated any door was closed. CIPA expressed his hurt.
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BUT if someone said all of that to me, true or not, I would def. not try to talk to them more over think he was interested in reconciliation.
No comprende.
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He had to "warm up" just a tad to her.
Why do you think anybody has to do anything?
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a good start to let her think "hey, maybe he doesn't hate me completely" and see where things could go from there.
So we should mind read for our WAS's now? Her feelings are not CIPA's responsiblity.
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He has detached.
Really? Go back and read from Friday.
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For weeks his only contact with her has been tactical and dealing with the children.
That's just the start to one part of detaching.
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she has started to send silly texts about nothing and for no reason
So? Could it be because she just got dumped by OM? Could it be she is afraid she might have to face the music in court? Doesn't matter.
This all could be good news. I don't know. A band-aid won't heal this.
CIPA, What would a new and healthy marriage look like for you? What do you need from your wife to trust again? What part of the marriage failing have you worked on? Take your time on this. I have been following your thread from the beginning. I don't believe you have detached. Decide what you want now for yourself. You have been trying so hard to fix things from the beginning. I get drained reading your sitch. I can imagine that you must be emotionally whipped. Take some time for yourself. "Love your neighbor as yourself." Get yourself to a place physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually where you can make wise decisions for yourself. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
