Being in the Auto business as well, I can tell you that we feel the urge to "fix" things.

If a car breaks, we want to fix it. ( Or as a GSM, sell a new one )

Not the case here.

This is gonna require good old fashioned hard work.

If you can wrap your brain around this, and really ABSORB this, then you can have that chance at a "new" relationship with your wife.

Time will tell

Nothing you do right now will affect the outcome, BUT, Everything you do right now will affect the outcome....

Think hard about that, and what that means to you....