I commend you on your recent interactions with your wife. You appear less needy and you are acting (at least I think you are) in a way that your wife will eventually respect. You are taking a stand for your marriage . . and good for you.
I don't know if all this will bring her around, but I am certain that, at the end of this, you will be at a much better place than if you just caved and played nice while she guts you.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .