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Oh...you will learn patience.

You will have to.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

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Originally Posted By: are you kidding
Read briefly,absorbed no. You've seen me type,to I strike you as someone with patience.


As a matter of fact....

Look. I'm not here to evaluate you. I am here because you are asking for help.

Patience? You better find some.

Are these things some of the things that have plagued the marriage ?

BND is spot on.....you need to learn to relax and breathe.

People are posting to you to help you.

Concentrate your thoughts and stop spinning, answers will come in time for you....

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Yes I am doing things now health wise and stress relieving wise that I hadn't before.Also now that I know I have ADD,going to counseling,etc.

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Look for us under our DB names......


There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
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If you cannot absorb then all the advice in the world isn't going to do anything for you except pass time.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

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So how do I keep myself out of trouble and I just started Lexipro to calm my nerves. I have a quick temper.

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OK....

Just so you know...

And I swear I am not here to depress you.

My Husband was in MLC for over 5 years.

BUT....

The good news is that he is home, and has been for over 2 years.

It takes patience and lots of duct tape.


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I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
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Originally Posted By: are you kidding
So how do I keep myself out of trouble and I just started Lexipro to calm my nerves. I have a quick temper.


You do it by making the changes in your life that you need to make.

No one here can tell you what they are.

But I'm gonna go out on a limb here and start with .....

Quick Temper ?
Patience ?
Understanding?
Validating ?

Those are things YOU listed here...

These are things you can do for YOU....

They are things you can do to be a better person...

The AD's , they take a few weeks to kick in, but they are NO excuse for handling things badly.

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I am in the car business,I was a GSM,I've resigned that position and work 42.5 hrs now and no Saturdays. Too reduce her stress, I refinanced the house and cut the payment in half,paid off our credit card and S's student loan. I worked 65-70 hours a wk.

And my wife was pretty responsible with the kids,she wouldn't accept my help,she took it as critical always did if I got involved,she kept alot from me.

Our teen is her best friend and who she goes to for security,etc.And my teen goes to her to get away with stuff.

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The Lexipro can take 6-8 weeks to fully kick in. You said something about a stimulant also. What is that?

Other ways to calm, non medical, walk, meditate (probably not for you right now), pray if you are inclined. Read, read, read some more. Soothing music. Stop looking for the "right" answer, there isn't one. It is a combination. Find something constructive to distract yourself with for now. You know put your focus on something other than this and W.

Some of our register dates may be very recent, but many of us lurked for a while here before posting. Believe me, we have all been in the spinning stage.

Jack, something wrong with your fingers today?



"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
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