Ok so you know what you are leaning toward. The extension will give you more time and Boat is still right because life does not end with a divorce.
But since you have no choice but to respond, unless he withdraws, the maybe wait until the last possible minute to give him the opportunity to do so. With no expectation that he will.
I don't really like option 3 either, but they may still order counseling if the judge deems it necessary. However, if you don't ask for it, then you don't have to accept responsibility for forcing it.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
